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Just as adults are diverse and full of unique characteristics, the same can be expected of children at all stages of life. While some are quiet, described by parents as undisturbed children, peacefully carrying out their daily tasks, such as eating and sleeping, there are so-called "difficult babies," those who cry more than other babies, and this crying, in turn, is quite loud, making it difficult to calm. "Difficult babies" also have trouble sleeping and end up waking up more frequently during the night. If you recognized your own child's characteristics in what was reported, know that some research has investigated the reasons for such behaviors and has found findings that attribute these characteristics to the way they are raised.
According to this research, when a "difficult baby" is treated receptively by their parents, with their needs met and their need for affection met, they tend to grow into adults with good social skills and a good education. Similarly, but in a different direction, when this same baby shows signs of parental neglect, not receiving enough attention and affection, their chances of becoming a child with school-related problems and an adult with career conflicts are quite high.
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In this regard, it's also interesting to analyze other aspects of parenting that can negatively impact children's development. According to research conducted at the University of California, in the United States, it was found that parents who punish and lack support for their children end up increasing the chances of them suffering from low self-esteem, problems at school, and, consequently, depression and behavioral problems. The aforementioned study is one of the first of its kind to highlight that, contrary to popular belief, strict parenting is the best way to raise a child. According to the study's author, Cixin Wang, her results indicate that raising a child in a controlling manner, based on punishment and offering little support, ultimately fails, producing the aforementioned effects. Wang also points out that displays of affection from parents, as well as displays of support, are essential for children.
Cixin Wang's research was published in a scientific journal, the Journal of Family Issues, and was based on the observation of 589 children, who were questioned about their parents' behavior, as well as their own behavior and what their daily life at school is like.
In line with Wang's findings, a study conducted at Kobe University in Japan stands out. The study indicates that children and babies who receive affection from their parents are more likely to become happier adults. This impacts the lives of children to such an extent that the study also suggests that, as adults, these children may earn higher salaries, receive better academic training, and possess a more refined moral sense. This study, in turn, analyzed 5,000 individuals, including men and women, who answered questions about their relationship with their parents when they were still children. The questions raised related to the interest the parents had in the things their children did and the trust they placed in them, for example.
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Once the data from these questions was compiled, the researchers were able to analyze a series of parenting factors and divide parents into six categories based on how they chose to raise their children. Consider this list and choose your style wisely.
1) Supportive: This parenting style involves providing children with a medium to high level of independence, as well as a high level of trust and interest in their activities. Parents who choose this style also choose to spend more time with their children.
2) Strict: They don't allow their children much independence, their level of trust is average, as is their interest in the things their children do, and these parents are also known for creating a lot of rules.
3) Tolerant: Their level of trust in their children can be described as medium and they spend what can be described as medium to long time with the children.
4) Malleable: their interest in their children's activities is low, but they do not have many rules regarding parenting, they are not rigid and spend little time with their children.
5) Harsh: Your children's levels of independence, interest, and trust can be described as low. They are also rigid.
6) Average: all items mentioned above are performed by parents in an average manner.
Therefore, through this data, the research found that the "Supportive" parenting style can be associated with happier adults who earn better salaries and have more academic achievements. This style was considered the best way to raise a child. The "Strict" parenting style, on the other hand, was associated with people who also earn good salaries and have good academic achievements, but are not happy.
