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Relationships have their ups and downs. Nothing is like Hollywood movies. Happily ever after needs careful consideration, or it will simply turn into a bitter end for the couple. This is true for marriages. A good relationship also depends on the individual's attitude.
Some women don't accept separation, much less divorce, with an open mind. Some women see divorce as a failure they've committed, and others see it as a chance to exact revenge against their husband. But before you consider hiring a divorce lawyer, review this list and carefully consider whether it's what you really need.
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Some marriages fail for a variety of reasons—cheating, lying, drinking, work, and child-rearing issues—but some couples overcome these challenges, while others don't. Divorce is often seen as an opportunity to get revenge on a partner who didn't live up to expectations, but before calling a divorce lawyer, consider this list and then consider whether it's truly worth it.
Whether or not a person still decides to divorce is entirely their choice. One detail worth noting about this list is that it can be used by both men and women. The idea of the list is to guide a person on whether or not they want to stay in the marriage.
To make this list, you don't need anything special. Grab a piece of paper, a pencil, or a pen, and write down all of your partner's flaws. There's no limit to the number of flaws or the amount of time you can spend on this list; do it calmly and honestly.
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Once you've written down your flaws, be completely honest, and examine your partner's flaws. Are they really things that prevent you from having a good relationship? Could one of these flaws have been exaggerated because your partner's feelings are raw? Analyze each flaw.
Then, turn the page over and begin writing how you feel about each flaw you've identified, with complete sincerity, as only the person writing the list will see it. How a person feels about someone who doesn't help with chores or how they feel about someone who jokes around too much—these are some of the questions the list writer will need to ask.
The idea behind this list is to help you self-evaluate. Of course, each case is different, but generally, some couples who are desperate for divorce can resolve the situation with a sincere and amicable conversation. Sometimes, a woman sees a storm in a teacup and needs to calm down before making such a serious decision. In cases where divorce is the only option, no one is here to deny that.
Just to remember that before shouting divorce and saying your partner is the worst person in the world, it costs absolutely nothing to talk to the other person and understand what your partner is feeling.
